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Discipline for a toddler: how about spanking?

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Let me tell you, spanking never works. We use a light form of psychological "manipulation" that my family doctor has deemed appropriate for my sons. sometimes when they're misbehaving I'll go down to the cellar for 45 minutes and just listen to a podcast really loud so i can't hear them. Eventually, they stop crying and I go back upstairs with no clothes on and sit quietly on the couch like nothing happened. this teaches kids to question everything, such as; what happened down in the cellar to mommy? Why was I crying about something so trivial when my mom could have been attacked down stairs? They'll usually rush to my side to aid me and then they forget about their tantrum and I put on a robe on and we play trouble.


There is so much research now that talks about the negative impact of discipline (time-outs, yelling, spanking), that I would steer clear of it whenever possible. I found Dr. Laura Markham's book "Peaceful Parents: Happy Kids" to be eye opening, informative, and helpful. I've implemented her strategies and definitely see positive results. I'm not perfect yet (nor will I ever be), I still have moments of frustration and yell, but it's far less. She has a web site too: ahaparenting.com, although I found the book to be much easier to read.


Only when needed! All I really have to do with my daughter is count to 5 and she immediately stops what she is doing


Well my kids are special needs so I use time-outs, behavior charts and taking toys away. And only this if necessary. It's hard to discipline special needs children. But my sister spanks her 7 year old and has a 8 1\2 month old when she spanks the 7 year old and will the 8 1\2 mo the old when she turns 2. I think it's OK to spank kids, just not special needs children. But my sisters child has ADHD and ocd, so I disagree with her.


We only spank when it's absolutely needed. It usually happens if James does something he knows he gets majorly in trouble for and still does it. Like grabbing stuff off the counter in the kitchen. I caught him running around with scissors the other day and he got spanked for it.


I'm against it too. I was abused as a child and can't even stand children being flicked.


I'm against it. My father spanked me a lot. As a result of this, I distanced myself from him. I felt unloved and stressed out constantly. He spanked my brothers which made them violent. My son is autistic. I never raised my hand to him, I had many different methods. I don't condemn those who spank. I just feel it is something to use caution with.

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